How often do you struggle to make decisions? How often do you find yourself in a situation where you have no idea what to do next? More often then you would like? Are you a lover of a good pros and cons list, or are you a fan of knowing all of the facts before making a decision?
Making decisions doesn’t need to be THAT hard and I’m here to tell you how to ease the process.
I’m sure you know what it’s like to make a decision or take action on something that just didn’t feel right. And I’m sure you know what it’s like to do it anyway, only to quickly regret it. That feeling you ignored (the one that turned out to be right) is your inner wisdom / your gut instinct / your intuition / your inner guide, or whatever you like to call it.
Sometimes your inner wisdom will speak to you in little whispers or will appear as a feeling in the pit of your stomach. It often is a feeling – a feeling that you understand, but can’t quite put into words. It’s a feeling or thought that comes to you quickly, and that doesn’t require long or painful deliberation. You might even call it a hunch or a knee-jerk reaction. To learn to trust your inner guide you first need to learn how to distinguish your intuition from your ego or the often critical voice in your head. The key difference between the two is that the voice of your inner guide speaks to you through a feeling, whereas your ego speaks to you in fully formed sentences. Your ego will present its thoughts logically. The guidance from your intuition doesn’t always need to be logical or make sense to you. Sometimes it will just feel right, even if you can’t explain why it does.
In order to start trusting yourself, you need to learn to be ok with uncertainty. There are times when your intuition will tell you to do something or try something new, even when you have no idea how it will work out. And that’s ok, you don’t always need to have a rational plan. Go with it and let go of your need to control your outcome. When you trust yourself and allow your intuition to lead you, life will open up possibilities and present you with opportunities you never thought possible.
If it’s been awhile since you tuned into your intuition and you’re not sure if you can hear your inner guide, here are some tips to help you get back in touch with yourself.
1. Make time for stillness.
If you are constantly rushing through your day and bouncing from one thought to the next, you won’t notice the little nudges from your inner guide. The easiest way to add stillness into your life is with a short, regular meditation practice. If you can meditate for just 10 minutes every day, you will quickly tune back into your inner wisdom. If you can’t meditate every day that’s not a problem. Making time for stillness a few days a week will help you reconnect with yourself as well.
Whenever I feel disconnected from myself I know it has been too long between journaling sessions. Putting pen to paper is a great way to explore your thoughts and your feelings. Writing in the morning, especially just after waking up, will help you tune into your inner guide. You might even be surprised by some of the ideas you have while you’re journaling.
3. Regularly check in with your body.
Our bodies are so smart and they are always relaying messages to us. Throughout the day ask yourself how you feel and try to tune into your bodies natural cues. You might have tight shoulders, a clenched jaw, shallow breathing or difficulty sleeping if you’re in situation that is not right for you. You may feel energised or have a sense of ease and excitement when you are doing something that aligns with your inner wisdom. Tune into what feels good for your body and what doesn’t, and start living in accordance with those feelings.
4. Start doing the things you want to do.
The voice of our inner guide often gets stifled because we are busy doing the things we think we should do or the things that other people tell us to do. If you want to throw out the rulebook, march to the beat of your own drum, or try something new – do it. If you are being drawn to something, it’s usually for a reason. In order to learn to trust yourself, you need to start taking action and following the feelings that your inner guide offers. If something feels right, say yes to the guidance and take action.
To learn more about trusting your inner guide by the end of this year, you could also read one new book per month. There are four months of the year left and here are four book suggestions, all of which have made a difference in the way I approach life and decision making: Spirit Junkie by Gabrielle Bernstein, A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle, The Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte, and The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown.
Have you read any of these books? What books have you read that changed your life? I’d love to know – tell me via the comment section below.
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